The biggest mistakes parents make about educating kids about porn

I know why parents are shy to bring up the topic of porn.  Our parents didn’t have to have this conversation with us, and we have no models to go by.  We’re scared to screw it up, as anyone would be.

I’m all about helping you have that first talk, opening the communication, and ensuring that it isn’t a train wreck.

Let’s start by NOT doing these:

 

 

Mistake #1: Chickening out

Many parents hear about the dangers of online pornography and resolve to protect their kids from it, but then don’t actually have a conversation.  

They might give their kids a cryptic message like, “Be safe online,” or “Don’t do anything I wouldn’t do,” and leave it at that.  

They might check the browser history on their child’s device, find nothing of concern, and conclude that the conversation doesn’t really need to happen yet.

They might have their kid sign a technology agreement which states somewhere in the fine print that the child agrees not to access porn.

None of these are anything like a conversation, and I gotta tell ya, the results aren’t either.

  

 

Mistake #2: Relying on technological solutions

For some parents, it’s much easier to install filters or parental control software than to talk with their kids about porn.  Instead of having the conversation, they hope the tech will take care of it for them.  Spoiler alert: It can’t and it won’t.

 

 

Mistake #3: Just handing the child a book

Let me be clear, I love giving kids books!  However, a book about sex or dating or bodies is not going to prevent a kid from being exposed to porn.  

Giving a kid a book is not the same as having a conversation with them.  Give them the book if you’d like, but don’t do it instead of a meaningful discussion about the impact of porn on their lives.  

 

 

What to do instead? 

Sit down and TALK ABOUT IT.  

It’s perfectly understandable if you’re not sure how to get started.  We got you!  Watch The Porn Prevention video series or sign up to receive our free e-book.

You can totally do this.

 

We're all in this together, and I've got your back.

John

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